We all know the Golden Rule: Do unto others as you would have them do unto you. It’s great to teach children, so that they learn empathy or at least sympathy.
But when you get into more intimate relationships, especially those with a spouse or romantic partner, you need to go a little deeper. It’s not enough to think how you would feel or what you would want. You have to know what your partner wants.
And so the Golden Rule for Intimate Relationships is:
Do unto the other person as the other person wants or needs you to do.
This is what keeps husbands from giving their wives speedboats and wives from giving their husbands fur coats.
The trick is that the partner must express those needs and wants clearly. No fair saying, “If you don’t know what’s wrong, I’m certainly not going to tell you!”
Thus, the corollary to the Golden Rule for Intimate Relationships is:
Each partner must express his/her wants and needs.
If you don’t know what you want, then the two of you work on it together.
Sure, it isn’t always easy. A few episodes of, “I’m sorry, but that’s what I would have wanted if I had be in your situation” are acceptable. After a while, though, couples should really get the idea.
Have you made your wants clear? If not, maybe not getting what you want is - well, it’s in your hands!Susan K. Morrow is a psychic medium, medical intuitive, and spiritual teacher based in Austin, TX. She provides readings and coaching for clients across the country and around the globe, helping people learn about loving themselves and enjoying greater health and happiness. To get Susan K.’s free report, “12 Woo-Woo Tips You Need for Living in the Real World”, visit http://www.SisterMystic.com
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